I think we need to work out our behaviour in terms of our goals. I will explain you what I mean as this is very important topic for me.
For a long time (and even now sometimes) I behave myself with the girls as if I have the ultimate goal "I need sex". And I am behaving and acting as if this goal is number 1 for me. Actually this is a big delusion. If we are acting like we need only sex, we become unnatural and girls will figure that out in the end, it's just a matter of time. The issue is here that girls NEVER GIVE sex to men who want only sex. So this is a wrong goal for us.
We need to learn being natural and rework on our goals. Having sex is very good, but it should not be a main goal, it should not be even in top-3 of your life goal's list I think.
The actions I see to work on this issue are following:
- stop MB
- stop behaving like you arrived from the planet where there were no girls at all, don't use your head like a radar searching for a pretty girls 24h per day, just be more self-collected. Always keep quite narrow focus only in front of you if you are going somewhere, so you would never miss a girl which can appear in your focus area
- find your real goals, which will be useful for yourself. Work on them!
What else?
For a long time (and even now sometimes) I behave myself with the girls as if I have the ultimate goal "I need sex". And I am behaving and acting as if this goal is number 1 for me. Actually this is a big delusion. If we are acting like we need only sex, we become unnatural and girls will figure that out in the end, it's just a matter of time. The issue is here that girls NEVER GIVE sex to men who want only sex. So this is a wrong goal for us.
We need to learn being natural and rework on our goals. Having sex is very good, but it should not be a main goal, it should not be even in top-3 of your life goal's list I think.
The actions I see to work on this issue are following:
- stop MB
- stop behaving like you arrived from the planet where there were no girls at all, don't use your head like a radar searching for a pretty girls 24h per day, just be more self-collected. Always keep quite narrow focus only in front of you if you are going somewhere, so you would never miss a girl which can appear in your focus area
- find your real goals, which will be useful for yourself. Work on them!
What else?
Reason is simple - I started talking about myself, but I addressed my message to everybody, as it COULD be a common problem. Of course, if you don't have such problem, you can skip reading that. But if you do, than my addressing is correct.
ОтветитьУдалить1. Not sure. Only in case if you would not have sex with girls for years.
3. Good goal! Is it number 1 in your list?
For me, common problem means that many people face it and it is logically that it is harder (as many people can't find a solution).
ОтветитьУдалить1. I think 6 mths would be okay, but I will try with 1-2 first.
2. Okay, for me the same.
Wait, wait - you are thinking too much instead of me.
ОтветитьУдалить"so I cant find it."
I didn't say like this. I said that this is a well-known common issue and also this is my issue. I also said that many people have difficulties with solving it (because it's still existing as a common issue) and for me it is also hard to solve it, but I will try and already suggested an action plan.
Probably my generalization which was made consciously confused you. I added this generalization to show you that not only me facing this issue.
I made commitment to myself, just promised.